Children’s strong self-esteem is their armor against the hardships of the world. Here’s how you can build healthy self-esteem in your kids.
It’s not always difficult to tell whether or not children have a positive self-perception. “Self-esteem” is a common term for this concept of self-confidence.
The Importance of Having a Positive Self-Concept
Children with a positive self-image are more likely to take risks and explore new interests. They are more inclined to give it their all. They take great pride in their accomplishments.
Self-esteem helps children deal with their mistakes. When they fail at first, it encourages them to keep trying. As a result, having a high sense of self-worth helps children succeed at school, at home, and with peers.
Low self-esteem causes children to doubt their abilities. Children may not participate if they fear others will not accept them; they may allow themselves to experience abuse from others and be unable to defend themselves.
Kids with low self-esteem have difficulty dealing with mistakes, loss, or failure. Therefore, they may not achieve their full potential.
How to Raise Self-esteem?
Even during infancy, it is possible to develop. It takes time for it to grow. Children who feel safe loved, and accepted are more likely to develop mental health issues. It might begin when a baby receives loving and encouraging attention.
As youngsters grow into toddlers and preschoolers, they can perform some tasks independently. As soon as they can put their new talents to practice, they feel more confident. When parents pay attention to allow a child to try, smile, and show pride, their self-esteem grows.
Children’s self-esteem can develop along with them as they mature. Self-esteem can grow whenever children try new things, do new things, and learn new things.
Having a solid sense of self-worth in children allows them to feel competent, capable, and loved just the way they are.
Help Your Child Build Self-Esteem
It’s impossible to generalize about a youngster because they are all unique. Some children have an easier time developing a sense of self-worth than others. Some things can have an impact on a child’s self-esteem. You can raise a child’s self-esteem, even if it’s poor.
Here are a few ideas for parents who want to assist their kids in having a positive self-image:
- Encourage your child’s self-reliance by demonstrating how to complete tasks independently. There are new things for children to learn at every age. Learning to hold a cup or take your first steps gives you a sense of accomplishment and joy even when you’re a newborn. Things like learning to dress oneself, read a book, or ride a bike help build self-confidence in children as they get older.
- Begin by showing and assisting your children as they learn to accomplish anything new.
- Afterward, allow them to do what they can, even if they get it wrong. Be on the lookout for chances to lend a hand to your child to grow and succeed. New challenges shouldn’t be straightforward or overly complicated – in either direction.
If you’re going to praise your youngster, do so in moderation.
Of course, praising children is a good thing. When you give someone praise, you’re conveying your pride in them. However, there are some methods of rewarding children that can backfire.
Make sure you're following these steps correctly:
- Don’t go overboard with your praising.
- It’s hard to believe in praise that doesn’t feel well-deserved. There are several ways to tell someone they performed well, such as telling a child he did well even when you know he didn’t play well.
- It’s preferable to state, “Even though it wasn’t your best performance, everyone has bad games. You’ve got my admiration for never giving up.” “Tomorrow, you’ll be back on your feet,” says a supportive voice.
- Praising effort is a good thing.
- Keep praise from focusing solely on outcomes (such as an A) or innate characteristics (such as being smart or athletic).
Instead, focus on praising your efforts, growth, and attitude rather than praising yourself. “You’re doing a great job on that project,” “You’re becoming better at these spelling examinations,” or “I’m impressed with your dedication to piano practice” are all examples of compliments. This kind of praise encourages students to put in the effort, work for their goals, and give it their all. They are more likely to succeed when they do this.
Set an example for others to follow by becoming a positive role model.
Everyday chores like raking leaves, making dinner, cleaning up the dishes, or washing your car offer an excellent example if you put in the effort. Making the bed, cleaning up after themselves, and doing their homework takes effort, and your child learns this from you.
Showing the correct attitude is also essential. Your youngster can learn to perform the same things you do by doing them pleasantly (or at least without grumbling or whining). The more you value quality over quantity regarding household duties, the more your child will cherish it.
Discourage the use of insults or criticism that is too severe.
The messages they receive from others influence children’s feelings about themselves.
Nothing is encouraging about harsh statements like “You’re so lazy!” Children’s self-esteem suffers when subjected to unkind remarks regarding their appearance or behavior.
With patience, teach your children. Next time, focus on what you want them to do instead of what they’ve done so far. Show them how to do it if they ask for it.
Focus on what you've got.
Focus on your child’s strengths and interests. Your youngster should have the chance to learn these abilities.
Rather than focusing on a child’s faults, focus on their strengths. This strategy can improve their behavior.
Allow children to help and give.
When children perceive that others appreciate their efforts, their self-esteem soars. There are many ways that children might provide a helping hand: at home, at school, or by doing something nice for a sibling.
Actions of kindness and service nurture self-worth and other positive emotions.