Do you want to stop back talks in your home? Here are easy steps in educating a child with the proper use of back talk.

It’s possible that every parent has a somewhat different idea of what constitutes a back talk. On a spectrum from “standing up for yourself” to “being purposely provocative or rude” and saying things they know are out of limits, this behavior falls somewhere in between. There’s always an underlying message of “You’re not the boss of me,” no matter how old the child is.

When it comes to toddlers, we give them a lot of leeways. Due to the higher standards we place on their behavior, preschoolers are constantly ready for a power battle. You can bet they’re double-checking the boundaries when you get a reaction from them. After a long day at school, school-age children may be drained, impulsive, and less ready to listen to instructions, leading them to say hurtful things they later regret.

Recognize that children primarily seek our attention and affection.

Because it allows you to get work done, ignoring your child while they are being charming and easygoing can be tempting while you’re engrossed in an email. You’ll look up from your phone if they suddenly start becoming disruptive. Your attention is just what they were hoping for.

Don’t make things worse.

If your child says, “No, you do it!” when you ask them to put their shoes away, it’s easy to get angry or threaten them. Young children typically respond to yelling, but it doesn’t feel good to anybody involved. As an alternative, imagine yourself as a cold-hearted machine that provides people advice on how to stay warm.

Do a fresh start on them.

For a younger child, you may need to express your preference in a language for them to understand you. Then let them try it again. Saying, “Go take some time by yourself and come back when you’re ready to act with respect” with an older child works well. When you’re pleasant, people want to be around you; when you’re disagreeable, they don’t. This is how the world works.

It would help if you offered your children a second chance to correct their wrongs.

Your expectations for their behavior outside of the home should be reflected in the rules they follow at home. At home, kids have greater possibilities to succeed. Do not harbor resentment after they have made things right. All of this necessitates that you treat your children with the utmost respect. You can’t use language that you wouldn’t use with anyone else when talking to them.

These are just some of the ways you can take in educating your child with the proper use of back talk.