You can take a positive path to teach your child good behavior. Here are good tips you can use to deal with big children’s behavioral issues.

Bedtime. Mealtime. Cleanup. Sometimes, a day can feel like a series of child-behavior conflicts. Try something fresh to encourage your child to listen instead of pounding your head against the wall.

For a brief moment, after witnessing 1-2-3 magic,” I was convinced my sister-in-law had been transformed into a wizard. Her 4-year-old son was merrily ignoring her pleas to stop tossing toy trucks at his newborn brother. After that, she began to count.

By the time she mentioned three, all vehicles had been halted, and her child had remained calm and composed. However, whenever I tried to count with my preschooler, she’d cry in my face instead. Is there a reason why one parent’s method of disciplining their child works well for another?

A child isn’t a machine. Time-outs may reign supreme at a friend’s house, but they may really make matters worse at yours. Or perhaps the sticker chart your son uses to keep him motivated doesn’t work with your daughter at all. You want to help kids learn to control their own emotions and impulses, so try another one if an approach isn’t working. Try to stay with it even if things get a little worse before they improve.

What these parents did pay off quickly for them. See if you can learn anything from their approach to dealing with their children’s behavioral issues.

When the consequences are clear and predictable, even young children may grasp the concept of personal responsibility. A traffic ticket analogy is appropriate: You witness the violation, issue a fine and then go on. Clothing that never gets to the hamper and books that build up all over the house can also benefit from this technique.

A child’s sense of justice is automatically piqued when they take turns doing things. However, it is practically impossible to recall who went last every time—setting up a simple system for tracking time each day. Does the jail have bail for blocks? It simplifies everything for everyone, including determining who picks the movie for movie night and who gets to pick the pizza crust’s ingredients. On a calendar, write down the names of the people who came in last in order to keep track of who came in last.

The best way for kids to learn is to have them see the repercussions of their actions. As a result, we tend to shield them. Let them struggle a little bit and deal with the difficulty. It’s our responsibility. This strategy works equally well for nagging classmates and getting the upper hand at recess.

For some kids, the prospect of gaining privileges outweighs any potential loss of allowance or other rewards. You might even reward your child with an extra bedtime reading or a Saturday playdate if they complete their school assignments without a hiccup.

Your child may be getting out of bed 15 times in a row to catch your attention. She has a choice: immediate attention or the better reward of a morning prize. The hall pass serves as a tactile reminder. Reminding your child to stay seated is also a good strategy when dining out, where you can offer her a one-time pass to leave her seat.