FACILITATING THE MANAGEMENT OF UNCERTAINTY IN CHILDREN
Like adults, children and teenagers yearn for clarity. Fortune tellers and horoscopes have been around for millennia because they can predict the future.
Children and teenagers are no different in wanting to know what’s going to happen next, regardless of how many times these myths have been disproved.
Despite its discomfort, uncertainty is not insurmountable.
Uncertainty, according to research, causes our brains to work harder. It takes more mental work to get through the day when there are too many unknowns. Consistent parenting and regular routines can provide some degree of certainty for children. When youngsters are able to focus on learning new abilities rather than worrying about what will happen next, their growth is aided. Children can learn to be more self-sufficient by following a fixed morning routine, for example.
But even in the best of conditions, it is impossible to govern every area of one’s life. It is possible to gain emotional qualities such as tolerance for uncertainty and adaptability. It’s not something that comes easily, so helping toddlers and teenagers acquire this talent is quite beneficial. Some kids may struggle with this, and it may take them longer to get the hang of it than other kids.
Improve the coping abilities of your youngster. Resilience is an important topic.
SUPPORT YOUR CHILD’S EMOTIONAL ABILITY.
Uncertainty is a complex emotion for children and teenagers to cope with on their own. This becomes even more critical under pressure. As we deal with the COVID-19 epidemic, there are still many questions we don’t know the answers to. Even if vaccination rates rise as a result of better medical knowledge, the effects on education and the economy will be long-lasting. It’s possible that our children are speculating about what’s next.
Just by seeing and listening, children and teenagers learn a great deal from the adults in their lives. Adults can set a good example by demonstrating that some uncertainty can be endured through their behavior and words. No, we don’t have to like it, but it’s not a deal-breaker, either. Having all the answers might be a burden for some parents. However, it’s perfectly acceptable to tell your children that you don’t know a particular item! It’s even better since you’re showing them that it’s good to be ignorant. You’re also teaching your children a life skill that’s undervalued: asking for help or further information when you need it.
You also need to tell the truth wherever possible while delivering information. One method to constructively respond in this situation is to propose that you can try to find additional information together. Try to open minded and seek out new experiences that will expand your knowledge base.
Self-control in the face of difficult emotions is a skill that must be learned and practiced over time. A loving, supportive atmosphere where children can openly express their feelings is essential. Kids need to know that they matter. They also need to know that it is acceptable to describe a wide range of emotions—and that if they share uncomfortable feelings like fear or grief, parents will not either ignore the problem or become highly upset. Let your child to express himself or herself in a way that is appropriate for his or her age and developmental stage. It’s acceptable to be furious, but it’s not acceptable to physically harm another person.
Instead of hiding their feelings, children should learn to express themselves. When it comes to showing their emotions, children are often better at drawing images than adults. Even older children may require assistance in naming and recognizing their own feelings, much alone sharing them with others. Creative outlets like music or sport, spending time in nature, or writing in a notebook can also be used to express and control feelings.
SPREAD THE WORD THAT YOUR CHILD CAN OVERCOME.
You can also help your youngster develop a sense of self-confidence in their ability to cope with life’s difficulties. In the future, when youngsters are faced with life’s inevitable ups and downs, this will be helpful to them. It’s valid to feel down and depressed from time to time. It takes time to develop the ability to deal with complex and unpredictable events. However, a positive home atmosphere teaches children that even unpleasant feelings may be dealt with in healthy ways.
To help youngsters manage, it’s essential to teach them that they can apply problem-solving abilities. As an alternative to just instructing children what to do, it can be helpful to encourage them to think of their own solutions. An organized approach to problem-solving might be employed for more complex issues. These coping mechanisms assist children in dealing with the current situation. As a result, they are better able to deal with future difficulties.
The Triple P Positive Parenting Program teaches you practical, easy-to-use strategies. These aid in the emotional well-being and growth of children, even in the face of adversity and hardship. It is up to you and your family to figure out what works best for them.
Triple P Online and Teen Triple P Online are interactive programs that can be completed online. They offer a wide range of helpful hints and methods for raising happy, healthy children. COVID-19 provides advice on how to deal with anxiety in uncertain times.