Stopping a child’s whining is one of the most challenging issues parents face when raising children. When you hear someone complaining, it’s like hearing a child’s fingernails scratching on a chalkboard.

Whining has been scientifically confirmed to be one of the most distracting sounds recorded, as every parent can attest. Because of this, youngsters seem to be able to do it almost genetically as fish can swim.

Parental control over their children’s problem conduct is a real possibility. It’s also important to remember that children’s complaints decrease with age. Whining is rarely seen in an older grade-schooler, primarily when parents persistently and compassionately transmit the message to a child that whining is neither acceptable nor an effective means of communication.

As parents, we can make a great difference in whether or not our children resort to complaining by the words and actions we use to redirect them.

Strategies to Prevent Children from Whining

Observe whining in a new light. Parents of school-age children should realize that their children’s whining isn’t intended to irritate them. Doing so is a way of expressing their anger or wanting to be heard. Children expressing their wants and needs is a healthy aspect of their growth and development.

Take a look at what might be causing this. Is your youngster prone to crying after a long day? How about when he’s a little hungry, weary, or short on time? A new sibling, a family issue, or a challenge at school or home could cause his unhappiness.

Consider making changes to his daily habits to reduce his complaining and other bad behavior.

It’s okay to just hang out with your child and do simple things like reading books, riding bikes, or cooking together.

Call Out the Whine

It’s possible that your toddler isn’t even aware of her whining (this is especially true for younger children). Demonstrate her voice to draw her attention to her actions. Humor is an option here, and you might ask, “How would it feel if grownups were constantly grumbling about having to get up for work when they’re tired of cleaning the house?”

Afterward, demonstrate what whining sounds like to your youngster. Keep in mind, though, that the aim is to demonstrate to her what she sounds like rather than to belittle her emotions.

Make Whining Illicit

They must be taught that whining is not an acceptable form of communication. As you taught your child when he was a toddler that it was not appropriate to hit when he didn’t get his way, you may make it clear that whining is unpleasant and will never get him what he wants. 

In a calm voice, tell him that you will not listen to what he has to say until he can speak what he needs to say in a regular tone of voice.

Don’t Panic!

Take it easy, and don’t let others know you’re struggling. Relax and maintain your composure when your youngster begins to whine. When you were a kid, and your child fell, she would wait for your reaction to see how unhappy she should be before deciding how upset she should be. Here, too, the same rules apply. If your child sees you reacting to her complaining, or worse, giving in to her demands, she will learn from your example.

Don’t succumb to the pressure; instead, maintain your composure.

Would it be simpler to give them the desired candy or toy to end your child’s whimpering? Yes. If you do this, you’ll be encouraging your child to use complaining as a strategy to get what he wants in the future.


When disciplining children, one of the most common mistakes parents do is not being consistent. Don’t go back and forth on enforcing a “no whining” rule. Inconsistency weakens the message that complaining is inappropriate and will not be tolerated.

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