HOW TO SHOW YOUR CHILDREN YOU ARE PROUD OF THEM

In philosophy, there is no more challenging dichotomy than this one. In addition to helping our children succeed, it is crucial for parents to instill in them a sense of humility and modesty about their achievements.

It might be difficult to strike the right tone while expressing our pride in our children. Too few words of encouragement might leave children feeling down. Insufferable arrogance can result from showering them with praise on a regular basis.

Finding the right mix of praise and delight in our children’s successes can be difficult to achieve. These pointers can assist parents in finding the best way to praise and express delight in their children’s work and achievements.

Gratitude for the Method

A simple “we are so proud of you” from parents may not be enough to convey their pride at their child’s victory in the competition. It’s possible that the victory was all that mattered to the kids.

A statement along the lines of, “How nice does it feel to know that all of your hard work to improve has finally paid off?” is an example of this. Children will feel validated not only for their victory, but for the effort that went into it as well. Rather than merely feeling fortunate, they will have a deep sense of accomplishment.

Reward Them for the Important Things They Do

Some of the things our children get to do are more significant than others. An excellent illustration of this is a child who participated in a piano recital and made tremendous progress by working hard and practicing every day.

Parents may be reluctant to lavish praise on their child when a piano student fails in their performance due to a lack of preparation, practice, or by selecting a piece that isn’t difficult enough.

When praising a person’s accomplishments, don’t waste too much time on the praise that isn’t warranted.

Talk About The Difficulties

It’s common for children to overcome barriers or problems to accomplish something in their lives. They may have had to forgo social time with their peers in order to devote more time to practicing or honing their craft. They may have learned through early setbacks in a tournament where they fell short.

When we show our satisfaction in their accomplishments while also acknowledging the difficulties they faced along the road, they can tell how long we’ve been watching and how much we’ve valued their efforts.

Demonstrate Your Self-Belief

Our children benefit from knowing that we are proud of their successes and that they should feel the same way. For children to hear and internalize, it is far preferable to demonstrate confidence in their skills and admiration for their efforts in the experience—if a child performed well in this, she can do many things well.

Choose the Right Time

Praise should be given and accepted as near to the accomplishment as possible. While it’s fine to offer a few high fives to the players at the game, it’s also a good idea to have the family ice cream party that day instead of a week later. Our youngster gets even more out of the experience because of the near-to-action and public acknowledgment.

Say “I’m Proud for You”

Rather than saying, “I’m proud of you,” begin saying, “I’m proud for you.”

Rather than the accomplishment being centered on the parent, it now focuses on their child.

Praise Them With Your Attention On Them.

There are times when a parent’s statement of pride for a child can be directed at someone else. Confidence doesn’t become built by focusing on the people who aren’t performing well.

Praise the youngster on their own merits, without comparing them to their awe-inspiring parents or siblings.

Recognize Others’ Hard Work

While acknowledging their accomplishments, it is important for youngsters to understand that others were involved in their success. When a student earns an A on their report card, it’s appropriate to congratulate them and remind them to thank those who contributed to their success.

Encouragement of a sense of pride in one’s accomplishments while also emphasizing the fact that success is almost always the result of many people working together will benefit the child.

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