IDENTIFYING YOUR CHILD’S POTENTIAL ENEMIES

Being a teen means having lots of friends. While some friendships are healthy, not all friendships are healthy. Some of them are even malicious. Despite this, children are often blind to the harm that their interpersonal interactions can inflict on them. In reality, many adults cannot distinguish between a buddy and a bully.

Bullies who pretend to be friends are known as “frenemies.” Your children’s lives are made a misery by their nemeses. Master manipulators lead others to believe that their friendship is more than just a means to a purpose and trick them into thinking otherwise.

As a result of this peer pressure, your youngster may begin to bully others as well. As a result, it’s critical to spot potential enemies as early as possible.

Characteristics

Discuss the qualities of a frenemy to protect your children from becoming friendships with bullies. Compare and contrast the following traits with your child. Talk about the differences between friends and foes, and see if you can identify them.

Frenemy:

  • Wants to be in charge and make the decisions for pals.
  • People exclude others, form groups, and exercise tight control over who they associate with.
  • Belittle, humiliate, and gossip about other people.
  • At the expense of others, pursue fame.
  • May propagate false information and distort the truth.
  • Disturbingly manipulative.
  • Talks behind their friends’ backs about their buddies.

Good Friend:

  • Collaborates with the friendship as though they were equal partners.
  • They welcome new acquaintances, open to anyone.
  • Behaves with dignity and courtesy toward others.
  • Friends are more important to him than popularity.
  • A person who tells the truth and accepts accountability.
  • Respects limits and provides help.
  • Protects the privacy of a friend’s personal details.

The Power of Enemies Encourages Their Survival

These kids seek to exert control over others to fill a gap in themselves.

  • Regarding friendship, good friends like partnerships in which everyone feels they have an equal say.
  • Frenemies enjoy having the power to decide everything. A good buddy can work with you to make a decision together.
  • Relational aggression, such as establishing alliances, forming groups, and excluding someone, is common among nemesis and friends.
  • Good friends are open to establishing new friends, but frenemies set boundaries on who they can and cannot be friends with. Frenemies.
  • There is a distinct difference between friends and foes when it comes to how they regard each other.
  • Frenemies relish the opportunity to intimidate others by smirking and rolling their eyes. Good friends grin when they meet new individuals.

Being a foe isn’t fun.

While the “friend” appears to be friendly, they are actually participating in harsh actions.

  • In spite of their appearance, they are cold and heartless. Authenticity and honesty are hallmarks of good companions.
  • Falsehoods and exaggerations are common tactics used by foes to evade accountability. Good friends, on the other hand, will admit their mistakes.
  • It’s not uncommon for nemeses to harbor feelings of envy, resentment, or jealousy. The success of others does not frighten good friends. As a result, they join in the festivities.
  • It’s not uncommon for nemeses to resort to violence when they feel threatened. Those who value friendship above everything else, on the other hand, are few.
  • To go up the social ladder, frenemies will stab each other in the back. Those who are true friends are loyal and will defend those they care about.
  • It’s common for frenemies to be critical of others, including their own pals. Friends who are supportive and don’t say nasty things are the best kind of people to have in your life.
  • Friends make fun of one other’s appearance, mannerisms, and general demeanor. On the other hand, good friends are tolerant of others’ peculiarities and value their uniqueness.
  • In the presence of others, frenemies consider it appropriate to criticize and ridicule their buddies. As a result, good friends take great care to be supportive and nice.
  • Enmities will use a friend’s kindness or goodwill. On the other hand, good friends are grateful when someone helps them out.

Drama Is Spawned Through Rivalries.

It’s not uncommon for these toxic relationships to have a specific end goal: creating tension and conflict.

  • Good friends don’t divulge personal information to their adversaries, but foes do.
  • A good friend is a person who tells the truth and nothing but the truth.
  • In order to achieve what they want from you, frenemies are emotionally manipulative and will employ guilt trips and sulking. Good friends are aware of their own limitations and know when to stop.
  • FRIENDS are more interested in discussing their hobbies and interests, whereas FRIENDS are more interested in spreading rumors and gossiping.
  • Neighbors relish the opportunity to humiliate one another by posting disparaging notes on desks, lockers, and social media. Friends who care about you would instead offer you uplifting comments or messages.
  • Cyberbullying amongst friends is common. When it comes to social media, best friends only post good comments.

How to Step In and Help Out

As a parent, you can advise your child to put some distance between themselves and their frenemy. Reiterate the idea that a frenemy relationship may be extremely stressful and painful. There will, however, be some opposition.

It might be difficult for children to distance themselves from someone with whom they feel a strong emotional connection. As for making new acquaintances, it could take a while, too. Keep your cool.

Help your child build friendships while you wait. Invite other friends over and encourage your child to try new activities or discover new hobbies. Your youngster will eventually form new pals with the support of your guidance.

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