YES PARENTING: WHAT IS IT AND HOW DOES IT WORK?

From the premise that parents say no too often, “Yes Parenting” emerged. According to a study, parents talk no more than 400 words a day on average. Saying no too often stifles children’s natural curiosity about the world. However, the “Yes Parenting” movement has taken permissive parenting to a whole new level by encouraging parents to say yes more often.

It’s a common belief among so-called “yes parents” that parents should rarely say “no.” In fact, they feel that letting young children to do their own thing fosters a sense of self-reliance and the ability to make their own decisions.

“Yes parenting” has been likened to the role of a gymnastics or weightlifting spotter. They want their children to be able to make their own decisions and understand the repercussions of those decisions without putting themselves or others in harm’s way.

When it comes to children under the age of three, “yes parents” know that they don’t understand what “no” means to a child in the same way adults think they do. For example, young children may not fully comprehend why they should refrain from doing something. Doing so will only elicit an angry response from them. When a toddler does something you’ve told them not to do, you’ll often witness them doing it while smiling at you.

The “yes parents” talk to their children as they get older, first about what they expect to happen and then about what actually happened and what they might do differently next time. To put it another way, they want to ensure that their children will be able to handle peer pressure in the future because they’ve always made their own decisions.

“Yes Parenting’s” Advantages

“Yes Parenting” ensures that no two days are the same. This kind of parenting is appreciated by both parents and children since it adds variety and excitement to daily living. For the sake of their children, “yes parents” are willing to bet that this is the way to enjoy life truly. A look at the advantages of “Yes Parenting”

It empowers children.

When parents say “yes” to their children, they are free to explore their surroundings. They develop their problem-solving skills, expand their imaginations, and gain a better understanding of how things work. In the home of “yes” parents, there is never a dull moment. Because they aren’t restricted to a certain set of options, there’s always something they can accomplish. In this way, their innate sense of wonder and inventiveness flourish.

Parents are freed up.

“Yes parenting” liberates many parents. Many of the self-imposed regulations they’ve made for their homes and families can be thrown out the window as a result of this. In addition, people who practice this type of parenting feel that they better understand their children’s personalities and the workings of their minds. Even if their children beg them to go to bed, “yes parents” may answer yes, allowing their children to stay up as late as they wish. They may even let their children have dessert before supper, but they would never force them to do something they don’t want to do.

Family Strengthening

Families who follow the philosophy of “yes parenting” know how precious their time with their children is and how crucial it is to make the most of it. Saying yes is far more enjoyable than saying no. The answer is “yes” when it comes to things like stomping through the mud, making spontaneous trips to the park or the zoo, and, who knows, maybe even painting the walls. Many of these activities are shared with their children, which further enhances their relationship.

‘Yes Parenting’ Has Its Drawbacks

But how do these parents decide when to stop? Would they agree to hold their child’s hand in a crowded parking lot if they didn’t want to? When their three-year-old refused to ride in the car seat, would they say yes? The parenting approach is criticized because it fails to recognize when to say “no” to a child’s requests and demands.

Error in Establishing Rules

Excessive forms of parenting can be just as harmful as less-than-ideal ones. Children, especially the younger ones, require boundaries to be secure from harm or abuse. Putting your children at risk by saying yes to everything, even if it means putting them in harm’s way, is not good parenting. As a bonus, it saves parents the embarrassment of saying no.

Makes Children More Self-Centered

Teach kids that the world no longer revolves around them. It’s natural for everyone to experience disappointment from time to time in life. Understanding that not all options are good ones is also beneficial for kids’ development. Young persons raised in an environment of “Yes Parenting” may grow up to be excessively self-centered and unable to weigh the needs of others when making decisions.

Damages Grit and Resilience

The ability to manage rejection with grit and fortitude is lost if children never hear no from their parents. Likewise, they won’t know what to say when their teachers tell them they can’t do anything at school. They’ve never been told no or denied the freedom to do what they want. As a result, they may shatter the first time they are rejected or told no because they have no concept of handling situations that don’t go their way.

Parents are worn out.

Yes parenting can also exhaust parents, especially if they find themselves saying yes to everything their children ask, even when they shouldn’t. When parents adopt a “Yes Parenting” approach, they are essentially becoming people-pleasers who often give up on their own desires and needs in order to accommodate those of their children.

There is no one-size-fits-all method to parenting. Even the most successful parents use a variety of approaches to meet the requirements of their children and family. Parents are the only people who genuinely understand their children. As a result, while “Yes Parenting” and other extreme parenting methods might help parents learn about pitfalls to avoid, they should never be used to stigmatize or judge other parents. Only use them as a guide for your own parenting decisions.

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